Here's a great article on the dance of marriage.
I'll summarize so you'll go read it.
1. The entire dance depends on male leadership.
2. Leadership requires a lot of communication.
3. Many couples need more tension in their lives.
4. Submission and anticipation are contradictions.
- (most enlightening and challenging point!)
5. Submission depends on a lot of communication.
6. Love and gentleness are musts.
7. Have fun learning