How to discuss homosexuality as a Christian denomination?
I agree we need to judge actions, not motives. Very commendable to seek and do this.
I disagree that it's hard to know what Jesus would do here. Just substitute the adulterous woman in John 8:1-12 with a homosexual today, and you've got it. Jesus condemns those condemning homosexuals hypocritically, or to make political points. He writes their names in the dust, thinking of Jeremiah 17:13. They get it, condemn themselves and leave. Then Jesus graciously tells the homosexual that this IS sin and not to do it anymore.
But a question: what do we do once we all understand each other in 2009, and still see homosexuality differently? Insert a conscience clause into the BCO? If we decide to do nothing further than dialogue, we have chosen a theological position, not just decided to all get along.
On mission versus purity: our mission is to spread the truth of God's Word. How can we have a cohesive mission if we don't agree on what the truth of God's Word IS?